Hi Cheree here.
I thought I’d clarify as both my partner Lauren and I will both be writing blogs. I have thought about writing a blog for a while now but I was worried about how I’d go pulling all the thoughts together that are in my head, plus as you will see I am hopeless at spelling and punctuation I apologise if I ramble on but here goes. For my first blog I thought I’d go wayyyyyyy back to the start of Lauren and I. Please try to stay with me it may get confusing and take a while to explain as you will eventually figure out .
I met Lauren around 8 years ago. My dad and her mum started dating (now they are married) yep technically we are step sisters. I never thought of her as my step sister though, we didn’t grow up together hell I was about 24 and had 2 kids when we met. Lauren told me she was terrified to meet me at first because my father had told her if anyone in our family would have a issue with her being gay it might be me! Which made me soooooo offended. But fair enough I was married to a man at the time and yes I’m opinionated I admit but no one in my family knew at the time that I was bisexual . I kept it hidden until a few years ago from my family and for good reason. we got on straight away and became friends.
Fast forward to years later ….. I was divorced , had 3 children Jaxon, Mason, Addison and I was pregnant with Preston. Lauren and her ex had 2 angel babies and they now had split up and she was also pregnant with Brooklyn . We grew really close both pregnant and alone and we leaned on each other for support…… eventually feelings developed and we ended up together. We kept it secret for around 6 months or so from family. We did this because my family has not been the most supportive when it comes to me being with a woman. We still aren’t greatly accepted by some of my family.
Everyone has their views and opinions on us being together, we are tolerated by most of my siblings, I understand that it might be weird for them the fact that she technically is my step sister but this should not be so weird in my family as my mum is with my sisters father in law, and my brothers girlfriend is my ex husbands cousin, they have a son together so it’s my kids 1st and 2nd cousin sounds inbreed I know but none are related to each other by blood I swear lol we joke that we need to go on Jerry Springer.
So because the family is intertwined anyways this shows me its the whole being against me being with a woman thing more to me. We basically get treated like we’re diseased by some members of the family or were tolerated which is a really shit way to be made to feel but hey we love each other and we’re happy minus the way we get treated and we won’t let negative, small minded people ruin our happiness. We’re building a life and family together after being together for around 2 years. Blending our family hasn’t been easy. We got together at the hardest time in anyone’s relationship we had 2 newborns. We juggle 5 kids, 2 of which are under 2 which that alone is beyond crazy. They love each other and have a beautiful bond….. Half the time …… The other half is a disaster, they don’t want to share they are having tantrums and Preston likes to bite, scratch and pull Brooklyn’s hair. So sometimes we are ready to pull our hair out but mostly we pull together, we juggle it together. That’s honestly one of the things i love about being with a woman compared to being with my ex husband is I found you both pull your weight more and are more equal with taking care of the kids and housework and all the other relentless crap that goes along with family life. What’s made it easier to blend our family together is my older kids already knew and loved Lauren and Brooklyn, although there was a lot of conversations and a lot of questions from them. It made it easier that they knew mummy liked boys and girls as I had a girlfriend for a few years before I was with Lauren. It’s not a big deal to them which I love. I’m proud that I’m raising tiny humans with open minds about different families and the LGBT community. Breaking the family mould that I grew up in.